Praise involves sincere evaluation, approval and admiration of good qualities of the child.
The son who pleases his parents by his good qualities acquires the fruit of all good virtues. I am not angry with you for killing me, because it was just my bad luck. The age of questioning starts around 3 to 5 years and this continues until the age of 10 years. Even when he was dying, he only thought about getting water for his thirsty parents. Abstract thinking is not developed in children under 10 to 12 years of age. It is better if parents, teachers or the family physician educate the child on sex matters.
Now his mother just had to walk out of their home for a dip.
They are equally responsible for providing sound education and a sound knowledge of their religion as well as moral training of their children. They teach children good manners and how and when to trust and depend on people in various circumstances. Grandparents often have their own problems and personalities and it is wrong to expect too much from such grand-parents.
Far away in the city of Dwaraka, When Kṛṣṇa reached Pundalika’s home, the latter was absorbed in massaging his father’s feet and therefore did not pay attention to the visitor. In old age, people like to live in a fixed location and are not very comfortable moving around. We have to struggle and make special efforts to understand the subject. One can buy all the physical requirements in the market but can’t buy love with any amount of money.
Yes, King Dasharath’s arrow hit Śravaṇa Kumar. Most children do not like to study. Imparting knowledge about sex constitutes sex education. We should listen to them. The latter gets attached to the mother substitute, usually a female or a male servant or a baby sitter. He then carried them on his shoulder and walked on foot towards One day, when they were crossing a thick forest, the old parents felt thirsty. The Lord was so pleased with Pundalika’s regard for his parents now, that he asked Pundalika to request a boon from Him. Parenting is an art. If instead of frank welcome by parents, the child observes expression of embarrassment from parents, he too gets embarrassed and he subsequently avoids this topic. Can you guess what happened? Children in a joint family get the opportunity of observing how their uncles, aunts and parents love and appreciate one another and respect their parents. When Pundalika’s father went to sleep, he went to the door to welcome Kṛṣṇa. As the child grows, he becomes curious to learn about his body and is anxious to know about sexual differentiation and all matters related to sex. One cannot think of more loving and more experienced persons who will devote all their time and love for the welfare of the children. Even though Śravaṇa Kumar was in great pain, he only thought of his blind parents who were thirsty for water. Religious sentiments, temple visits and belief in God are first inculcated by parents. Even in case of a calamity such as father’s or mother’s death, children as well as the whole family get easily adjusted in a joint family. When they grow up, not only the real brothers and sisters but also their cousins help to develop each other’s personalities as friends, companions and siblings. Service to one's parents is the only essence of Dharma and it leads one to Moksha upon death. If the child has failed, do not scold him. Guess what!
It is the Divine Command to us Bhagavān wants us to serve our parents, because they are His direct representatives for us on this earth.
Your parents are too old to re-locate. If the child has failed, do not insist to promote him to the higher class, as it will be difficult for him to cope-up with the subject later if his base is not sound. Many years later, when Śankaracharya had become a very learned and a famous saint, he felt that his mother needed him. Younger the child, more important it is to make the subject interesting by telling related stories and giving suitable examples. The major problem is of emotional deprivation. One often finds children from a poor family with meager income thriving and progressing surprisingly well because of abundant love. “This is cheating, Ganesha did not even leave this place,” he said.